Situational Inspiration

When we're facing any trouble short, big, fat, tall, wide anything..

Remember always-- We've been through similar kind of situations before..

First we didn't know about the situations.........  Then we feared it....... When we faced it for the first time, we find it difficult to overcome.... After facing same issues again and again we become an expert in solving it...... and then we started giving GYAN about the same to others.... As I am doing right now

(And after a while you don't even remember the time when you used to fear that situation... Then it feels like you have always known it.

And that's what is called  "THE circle of life".

Once we understand it... We can face any situation better or worse when the time comes...!!! Cheers

My Dear WOMEN!!!

I was going through some blogs when I found this.. I liked it so much that I want my friends to read it..

It is written by a guy name: Kislay Chandra

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What comes to your mind, when the first thing you read in the morning is about a padeophile who got away? Or when you read gruesome headlines like “ 7 year old girl raped and killed” . 7 year old ? Raped and Killed ? What the FUCK ? What the FUCK is wrong with a society where children , innocent, divine, pristine, and unspoilt, get raped and killed ! 

From the very day a woman comes to existence, as a being on this Earth, she is the target, assaulted at every stage of her life. From female infanticides, to being raped and killed, no matter how old or young she is. Whether she flaunts her gifts in a bikni or gracefully covers herself with a hijab, whether she wears a saree, salwar,skirt or shorts, no matter what, why or when, she gets hit. The sickness of men when it comes to sharing the Planet with Women is universal , and manifests in many many cruel ways . They are mostly animals, or animalistic at times, at best. 

Leave alone Rape and Murder. They are the end of the spectrum. What about being sacrificed for the sake of a mythical honour, being burned for dowry, being abused by the husband, exploited at the Workplace, sold in the market place, molested in a crowded space? What about the myriad other ways, in which, We, men , in general, make things difficult for them? 

This huge gap, between the socio-economic status of men and women, will it ever be bridged by Reservations alone? I don’t think so. And neither can we bridge it by special favours and treatments to a few . You think, just because you don’t see it happening around you or with you, the times have changed, and women now walk along men, shoulder to shoulder? If you do, then you are among the lucky few in India for sure. I cannot say what happens in the Western countries for sure .

And to top this fine fettle of affairs, the Media has descended upon Womenkind, as a eco-friendly fossil-free resource, to be used anywhere, and in any way possible to maximize profits. No, it is not just pronography. Pornography is very direct. It is very blunt . What I am talking about, is the multitude of advertisements, that perpetually drive home the insidious message that if you use :-

My Deoderant -> All the Women for YouMy Hair Oil -> Hot wife for you My Cement -> More women . I don’t know how, but more women for you. My underwear -> A hot woman for youMy pen -> A hot teacher will fall for youMy Car/Watch/Laptop/Mobile/Analgesic/Soda/Umbrell/God-knows-what-else -> Woman, in every nook and corner for you

And I am not counting the tv-shows and cinema. 

So what message do I get , on a subconscious level? And why would would I need so many physically beautiful women? Ergo, a woman is an object, to be enjoyed and collected, if possible. And this message is put forward, 24/7. 

I can’t understand the way this society wants to function. It is at odds with it self . 

It seems to me, that they are trying to go by the following :-

1. I am a Man. I rock. Even if I don’t, let me reiterate. I am a MAN. I rule. 

2. I want to sleep with as many women as possible. From my teenage. 

3. It is my birthright to molest, eve-tease,grope etc., any woman that dares to step outside.

4. If any other man does the same to my mother or sister, all hell will break lose. 

5. When I marry, I want a hot wife who cooks,cleans and bears my child.

6. I want to be paid a certain amount for my masculinity , and the huge responsibility I take on my shoulders, to feed and protect your daughter. ( I forget at times, that I also get a wife, and the mother of my children) 

7. If the hot-wife is an only child, I would be very happy. I don’t want her brothers to share her fortune. My fortune is mine. Her fortune is mine as well. 

8. My wife should be a virgin, when I marry her.

9. I should have robbed at least one girl of her virginity before I get married.

10. My wife should not ever betray me.

11. I may sometimes sleep around, just to recreate myself. 

12. My wife should respect every memeber of my family, no matter how they treat her.

13. Of all the children 50% or more should be sons.

14. If all the children turn out to be sons, I will reward my wife appropriately( depends on the build,complexion, health of the son, and what he becomes) over her remaining less torturous life. 

15. If all are daughters, then all hell will break lose.

16. I may decide to kill some of my daughters, even if I dont have many of them, at times. I may kill them at birth, forcefully marry them off anytime I want, virtually killing them, or may kill them if they marry against my divine wish. 

17. I may be upsetting the sex-ratio, but fuck that, my honour comes first.

18. Another source of my beatific honour is the possession of sons with beautiful wives.

19. I am extremely aginst homo-sexuality of any kind. Homosexuality of the feminine kind can be condoned provided I am entertained by it. 

20. Coming back to my wife, she should take care of all my children. Sons can hang out with me. 

21. All my sons, should get ample opprotunity to play with as many other girls as they want. 

22. Any woman , my son marries, should be pure, as was mine, and should not have had any affairs prior to the marriage.

23. It is the fundamental duty of the father-in-law of son’s, to pay me back with interest, all money that I ever spent on him. But he does not get my son for it. 

24. If my wife or daughter should get raped, I will first try and rule out whether she asked for it.

25. If any family member does that, I may punish, my wife/daughter, depending on what I think happened. 

26. My wife/daughters should not step outside, without my direct permission. 

27. I want a certain percentage of the women, to be set aside, for my , and my fellow-men’s recreation. These women, will be treated the worst of all, because of what they practice. The sleep with men, for money. 

28. There are a few, amongst, many other things that I want from Women. The others escape my mind. So to simplify things, I have the right to impose any rule I like, from flattening breasts to inspecting wheter women are wearing bras or not. So please co-operate. Or else, you know. 

Now , you tell me, how the hell will a society be sane, given even half of the above rules are true. Men try to tilt everything in their favour to such a crazy extent, that things are way out of balance. But we never see the root cause. We suffer, and make women suffer even more. When we don’t get our sons,we kill them. When our sexually frustrated sons, as a result of the disturbing ratio, rape or attack other women, whom do we blame ? Even when we have paedophiles creeping out of many corners, we refuse to find out, why ? 

We choose to ignore all of it. Because we are men. We want women to serve us. Till the day we end up killing all of mankind, and all other women and children

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its high time that men understand the woman and respect them as they are...

http://kislaychandra.blogspot.com/

My one sided Love Story...

Can I ask you something, if you want me to

Do you like me really, or it's just a clue...

Because i don't know, but may be I'm into you...

I don't know the reason, but it is true...

I know you're simple and you like me too

May be there is nothing in your mind

Which gives me any clue...

When you say "I LOVE YOU"...

I love the love the things you love
I love the way in which you love
I love the words which expresses your love
I love the moment when you say you love me.

Meri UDAAN

Maine chalna bhi na sikha tha,

Jab mujhe diye par udne ke liye,

Kaha gaya mujhe, beta ud ke dikhao,

Ho sake to, kalabajiya kar ke dikhao,

Mai dara sehma sa, khud me sikuda sa,

Jab gira muh ke bal,

Unhe laga jaise maine kiya ho koi chal,

Bola gaya mujhe, tumhe kuch nai aata,

tumhara malik hai bus wo bhagya vidhata,

Kyu chale aate ho udne jab sikha nai kuch tumne abhi tak,

Kya socha tumne, sikh jaoge sab ek din me,

Mai soch na paya us pal, Kya galat kiya maine,

Unhone hi to bola tha, sab sikh jaunga mai ek din me.

Shyad mujh hi se hui galati, jab maine swikar kiya

Chalne se pehle maine jab udna ikrar kiya,

Agar khud ko pehchan jo leta, to shayd kuch kar pata

Dusro ki bato se pehle, jo apne mann ki sun pata

So maine hai li ek pratigya, ab jo udne jaunga

Sikhunga pehle mai chalna, aur tab kalabajiya dikhaunga.

Silence in Me

I used to sleep late night at times,

There was something, which used to bother my mind

To find out that thing, I wake up all night

To my wonder again, nothing happened that night

The one thing I noticed, was the pitch dark night

And there was a long silence between me and my thoughts,

That made me think, what happened that night

Was it really nothing? Or something sat inside

That thing inside, can it be really defined?

Or it's just there to be with me all life

but I asked myself, why I really bother?

As it helps me to do a think over!!

So, should I keep thinking, and try to define this thing

or should I say "be silent", and think again

Are you Listening???

Now a days if you look around, you will find lots of people spending money on education. But is that sufficient?? Spending money at something and expecting it to happen. Unfortunately that is the kind of mentality that most of us have grown up with. But does it help?? You go to a saloon... give him the money and ask him to cut your hair… will that be enough?? Will he be able to cut your hair as you have imagined??

The answer is NO, it won't happen… You need to tell the barber how exactly you want your hair to be cut. In case you don't know how you want to get your hair cut, you may have to look around or you may have to refer to someone who's haircut you want to have. Because that is how it works, you need to know what you want.

What I am trying to say is very simple… Investing into something and waiting for it to happen by itself is not sufficient. Before investing into something you need to know what exactly you want from it and what you are trying to achieve.

Let's take an example, I think MBA would be perfect. I have seen people coming from different background and joining this course. Which is good.. Course is very demanding, and its a good value addition for people coming from any background.

However, the situation has not changed. People are still the same. They have paid the money and they are expecting things to happen by themselves. Attending the classes and expecting the faculty to answer all the questions without them asking the questions. Sitting in the exam without preparation and expecting for the grades to shoot up by itself. Getting the degree and expecting some company to hire them on that basis. Now if you see consciously you will find out, that people are not putting the amount of effort which is very much required and necessary for the completion of MBA.

Where are we lacking?? What extra does it demand?? What can be done so that everyone can learn?? What can be done so that everyone can come to a minimum standard to become employable?? Have you ever thought about it??

If you want to cut the chase and want to get the full return on your investment (MBA). Start "LISTENING". It is been said that "How well you listen has a major impact on your job effectiveness, and on the quality of your relationship with others".

Listening is a skill that we all can benefit from improving, however the importance of it increases when we talk about us, the management students. By becoming a better listener we can improve our productivity as well as ability to influence, persuade and negotiate. What's more, we can avoid conflict and misunderstandings. All these traits are necessary for workplace success as we are about to enter into it.

Tips to increase your listening skills

1. Pay attention: - Give the speaker your undivided attention, and acknowledge the message. Recognize that non-verbal communication also "speaks" loudly.

2. Show that you are listening: - Use your own body language and gestures to convey your attention.

3. Provide feedback - Our personal filters, assumptions, judgments, and beliefs can distort what we hear. As a listener, your role is to understand what is being said. This may require you to reflect what is being said and ask questions.

4. Defer judgment - Interrupting is a waste of time. It frustrates the speaker and limits full understanding of the message.

5. Respond Appropriately. - Active listening is a model for respect and understanding. You are gaining information and perspective. You add nothing by attacking the speaker or otherwise putting him or her down.

Few Tips to consider

1. If you find yourself responding emotionally to what someone said, say so, and ask for more information: "I may not be understanding you correctly, and I find myself taking what you said personally. What I thought you just said is XXX; is that what you meant?".

2. It takes a lot of concentration and determination to be an active listener. Old habits are hard to break, and if your listening habits are as bad as many people's are, then there's a lot of habit-breaking to do!

3. Be deliberate with your listening and remind yourself frequently that your goal is to truly hear what the other person is saying.

4. Ask questions, reflect, and paraphrase to ensure you understand the message. If you don't, then you'll find that what someone says to you and what you hear can be amazingly different!

5. Start using active listening today to become a better communicator, improve your workplace productivity, and develop better relationships.

This is the basic need that all of us require. If you can excel in it, you don't have to worry about the return on investment. 

WE CAN MAKE a DIFFERENCE

Let's never ill treat people, because we have been ill treated,

Let's never cheat people, because we've been cheated,

Let's never hurt people, because we've been hurt by someone,

Never make anyone cry, because someone has made us cry,

We can make a DIFFERENCE, 

Because at least once, we will get the chance to treat people in a bad way or cheat people or hurt them as we have been hurt or make them cry... DON"T DO IT.. Because if we all aim for vengeance... It is never going to stop... It will continue till infinity... 

Let's never take the excuse of "Everyone does the same"... Why shouldn't I do it.?? But endure the pain... Be the one to forgive!!!

If we decide not to do the same as people have done to us... We will be able to stop people from experiencing those terrible nightmares that we had.. and they might not repeat the same... And the world shall be a better place....

It is always an individual who decides which path he/she wants to travel on, not just with the crowd...